I was recently invited to ‘like’ another Facebook Community page dealing with Parental Alienation, but before I could hit that little ‘like’ radio button I had to give the whole why thing some thought, and these were the conclusions that I came to and wrote to the page owner on.
I find it quite horrifying, yet at the same time inspiring, that the number of community pages and groups, private or public, dealing with the insidious evil that is Parental Alienation seems to be exploding on the great big wide world of the Internet and social media. Continue reading What’s Love Got to Do with It…..
So it was a beautiful sunny day and there I was in Perth’s city centre High street, minding my own business, sitting waiting…. just waiting….and along the side of my car comes this person, who then proceeds to call me a ‘skanky shite’, (well coming from this one it is all a bit rich really) but before she can say anything else a police car pulls up just at the lights on the High street, not far from where I am legitimately parked, and, well, just waiting…. but before I can respond to her she literally scuttles, and I do mean scuttles off, further up the High street. Continue reading Bullies and Domestic Violence
There are times, sadly, when your very best just never seems to be good enough. It’s not because you lack the ability to do your best, but because the system does not want you to succeed at doing your best.
For those of you who follow and like this page I want to update you all on what has been going on, or not, and how this has affected my daughter, her daughters and our family in general. Continue reading When Your Best is Not Enough
I’ve been awake since two thirty am thinking about my grandson’s #JoshandArchieMcKay after having a long conversation with my daughter about them earlier in the day. Sleep is always hard to find for me when my daughter is so distressed by how much she misses her two boys.
My oldest grandson Josh will be 11 years old tomorrow, it is another year where we will not help him celebrate this birthday because we have been denied access to him for so long now that he has been so brainwashed into thinking his mum and the rest of us are such bad people.
Continue reading When do I let go?
I never really thought much about Parental Alienation until it happened to my family, it isn’t one of ‘those things’ that you hear much about on the news or in the main stream media, but in the UK it does happen and it is happening more than people know.
But what is Parental Alienation? Well in short it is a term which is used to describe the behaviours used by a parent which is often mirrored by other family members, it is used to manipulate children’s minds with the end motive being to sever all ties and links with the child’s other parent and their extended family. Continue reading I Tried My Best…….
As an alienated grandmother whose daughter is being actively alienated from her two sons #JoshandArchieMcKay by her ex-husband and his new partner, and her family too (let’s all get in on the act here) I decided to take a look at the bigger picture and try to find a way forward as a means to attempting a more positive compromise, and in the hope that my daughters ex-husband may actually read this and consider the options, although I am doubtful, and if anything its more likely it’ll be his lawyer reading this and then writing to me again!
I have tried to sit down and work out the pros and cons of ‘Shared Parenting’ and exactly what this means not only for the children but also for the parents and other extended family members.
So as a ‘lay person’ with no other formal qualifications on this matter other than my experience of being in the position of seeing actual Parental Alienation at work, how it affects not only the absent parent, but also siblings and extended family here are my own personal thoughts on the matter. Continue reading The Pro’s and Con’s of Shared Parenting
Gardner’s 8 symptoms of Parental Alienation
Richard A. Gardner M.D. Clinical Professor of Child Psychiatry at Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeon says that these are the 8 symptoms of Parental Alienation Continue reading Is Your Child Being Alienated a Checklist for Alienated Parents
So here we are again…..
It’s now August 2015 and we are about to enter year 4 of our personal hell that is Parental Alienation of our grandchildren #JoshandArchieMcKay.
We have had absolutely no contact with these two boys for what seems to be an eternity of pain and misery, and whilst we can deal with it on a daily basis their mother and their three sisters find it very hard and miss #JoshandArchieMcKay more than the words I write can convey.
We all know now that Parental alienation is a form of emotional abuse in which a normal positive parent/child relationship is damaged or destroyed by another party using emotional manipulation, threats, false accusations, and any other means possible.
Continue reading The Lengths Parental Alienators Will Go To…….
Lately we’ve all be hearing about the case of a young mum #RebeccaMinnock who has gone on ‘the run’ with her small son Ethan. Whilst I DO NOT condone anything that is illegal in this case without knowing all the facts the press and the public on social media seem to be vilifying this young woman for her actions.
It was not that long ago that the press reported sensationally on the parents of a disabled boy who ‘ran’ with him to Spain and then onward’s so they could seek the right kind of medical treatment for him. In the end I’m not even sure if that family got any sort of official apology.
Yet here we are again, commenting and reporting on the case of #RebeccaMinnock as if we all know all the facts. Many dads groups are up in arms about this, outraged and saying if this was a dad it would be a lot worse, how so, that other parent would still be going through the torment and anguish of not knowing where that child was, the full force of the Law (which is a bit of an ass in my opinion when it comes to family matters such as PAS) would still apply. Continue reading The Rebecca Minnock Story
By Glenn Ross Caddy Ph.D., A.B.P.P., F.A.P.A.
“There is no question but that unless there is legitimate (and verifiable) reason to prevent the grandparents and children from enjoying a complete family life together [such justification may be the true psychological pathology or physical abuse of the children by the grandparent[s], that the alienation of children from their loving grandparents by one or both parents is pathological and constitutes child abuse. This is simply because grandparents play an important role for the children in defining the depth and family and the support system of love inherent in the family just as uncles and aunts and cousins contribute to the breadth of the family surrounding the support, love, and well-being of the children. These people are far more than friends, they are blood and they are love.
Tragically, it is common with alienation that when one set of grandparents or both sets are the victims of alienation the entire family on at least one side is estranged and splintered. The children who suffer this alienation have no context of cohesiveness or normalcy in of extended family life. They do not learn or know normalcy and they suffer profound emotional consequences therefrom. I have treated people in their 30’s and 40’s who came to realize in the context of the therapy that they were the victims of parental [and grandparent] alienation and their suffering has ranged between confusion and unimaginable psychic pain and psychopathology.”