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Hello Josh and Archie – We Miss You So Much

hearts-2Dear #JoshandArchieMcKay,

It has been a while since I last wrote to you both and I am sorry about that. I find it hard to sit down at my laptop and tell you both how much you are missed in our everyday lives, it’s hard listening to other grandparents talking proudly about their grandchildren, telling funny stories about them and hearing about how they have spent a day, night, weekend or holiday abroad with them.

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What’s Love Got to Do with It…..

13177177_1576505552641932_2457046837278823513_nI was recently invited to ‘like’ another Facebook Community page dealing with Parental Alienation, but before I could hit that little ‘like’ radio button I had to give the whole why thing some thought, and these were the conclusions that I came to and wrote to the page owner on.

I find it quite horrifying, yet at the same time inspiring, that the number of community pages and groups, private or public, dealing with the insidious evil that is Parental Alienation seems to be exploding on the great big wide world of the Internet and social media. Continue reading What’s Love Got to Do with It…..

The Serious Crime Act 2015

The Serious Crime Act (2015)

So I thought it was time to write another little piece about Parental Alienation and how the Police do not see it as an issue.

My daughter has now reported this issue on several occasions and has never had any sort of update that has been worth having. Continue reading The Serious Crime Act 2015

When Your Best is Not Enough

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There are times, sadly, when your very best just never seems to be good enough. It’s not because you lack the ability to do your best, but because the system does not want you to succeed at doing your best.

For those of you who follow and like this page I want to update you all on what has been going on, or not, and how this has affected my daughter, her daughters and our family in general. Continue reading When Your Best is Not Enough

Don’t be a Flying Monkey in 2016

flying monkThere are those of you out there who may be new to the game of Parental Alienation and who may not yet have heard of the term ‘flying monkey’, these are people that a narcissist uses to do their bidding.

There are times such as in our case when the lead narcissist will not personally attack you publicly in any way because to do so would make them look bad, but what they will do is privately tell those carefully chosen people how evil and awful you are, how you walked away and deserted your children, how you had numerous affairs, how you were a bad mother or father, it does not matter, they’ll use any and all ways and means of making you look like you are the bad one here, so long as it makes them look good.

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When do I let go?

186I’ve been awake since  two thirty am thinking about my grandson’s #JoshandArchieMcKay after having a long conversation with my daughter about them earlier in the day. Sleep is always hard to find for me when my daughter is so distressed by how much she misses her two boys.

My oldest grandson Josh will be 11 years old tomorrow, it is another year where we will not help him celebrate this birthday because we have been denied access to him for so long now that he has been so brainwashed into thinking his mum and the rest of us are such bad people.
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Sisters and their Brothers

My beautiful grandchildrenDear #JoshandArchieMcKay

Well it was Caitlin’s birthday today and as much as she enjoyed it all she said quite a few times how much she missed you both, it made it all very sad, no 14 year old girl should be saying things like that about missing her brothers. Continue reading Sisters and their Brothers

You May See Me Struggle……..

I have known a few people in my lifetime who were then or are now extremely frustrating to deal with, but none such as our own personal parental alienators.

Not only are they frustrating in each and every way, they are also very, very toxic, to the point that a skull and crossbones should be assigned to their every well thought out, planned and devious move. A few of these people absolutely show signs of having some sort of personality disorder, as in they don’t actually have any personality worth knowing. Continue reading You May See Me Struggle……..

The Pro’s and Con’s of Shared Parenting

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As an alienated grandmother whose daughter is being actively alienated from her two sons #JoshandArchieMcKay by her ex-husband and his new partner, and her family too (let’s all get in on the act here) I decided to take a look at the bigger picture and try to find a way forward as a means to attempting a more positive compromise, and in the hope that my daughters ex-husband may actually read this and consider the options, although I am doubtful, and if anything its more likely it’ll be his lawyer reading this and then writing to me again!

I have tried to sit down and work out the pros and cons of ‘Shared Parenting’ and exactly what this means not only for the children but also for the parents and other extended family members.

So as a ‘lay person’ with no other formal qualifications on this matter other than my experience of being in the position of seeing actual Parental Alienation at work, how it affects not only the absent parent, but also siblings and extended family here are my own personal thoughts on the matter. Continue reading The Pro’s and Con’s of Shared Parenting

Useful links for parents being alienated from their children 2015

IMG_20150729_002404 - CopyHere are some useful links for all parents, siblings and grandparents who are being actively alienated from their children, siblings or grandchildren

1. http://www.forallthat.com/children-resisting-contact.html

Nick Child, family therapist and retired child and family psychiatrist (whose website and words you’re reading) attended the event “Changing the Culture” on 31st August 2012 in Edinburgh – click here for programme and click here to download the full report of the event held at the Murray Stable. The event was mainly for and about family lawyers and the courts, and an imminent forthcoming review triggered by an infamous case “B v G”. There were contributions from others including the Scottish Child Law Centre, Families Need Fathers, and Women’s Aid. Since then other discussions have helped improve the picture and information in Scotland.

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