So it was a beautiful sunny day and there I was in Perth’s city centre High street, minding my own business, sitting waiting…. just waiting….and along the side of my car comes this person, who then proceeds to call me a ‘skanky shite’, (well coming from this one it is all a bit rich really) but before she can say anything else a police car pulls up just at the lights on the High street, not far from where I am legitimately parked, and, well, just waiting…. but before I can respond to her she literally scuttles, and I do mean scuttles off, further up the High street. Continue reading Bullies and Domestic Violence
Lately we’ve all be hearing about the case of a young mum #RebeccaMinnock who has gone on ‘the run’ with her small son Ethan. Whilst I DO NOT condone anything that is illegal in this case without knowing all the facts the press and the public on social media seem to be vilifying this young woman for her actions.
It was not that long ago that the press reported sensationally on the parents of a disabled boy who ‘ran’ with him to Spain and then onward’s so they could seek the right kind of medical treatment for him. In the end I’m not even sure if that family got any sort of official apology.
Yet here we are again, commenting and reporting on the case of #RebeccaMinnock as if we all know all the facts. Many dads groups are up in arms about this, outraged and saying if this was a dad it would be a lot worse, how so, that other parent would still be going through the torment and anguish of not knowing where that child was, the full force of the Law (which is a bit of an ass in my opinion when it comes to family matters such as PAS) would still apply. Continue reading The Rebecca Minnock Story
Mothers Day, Birthdays, and other holidays usually means for many people the receiving of flowers, gifts and handmade cards and breakfast of burnt toast and cold tea served up with lots of hugs and laughter. It means celebration and gratitude and rejoicing for doing the job of being ‘mum’ 24/7 365 days per year, come rain or shine, but if like my daughter and you are alienated from your children by their father and his family and new partner, then your Mothers Day was a bittersweet experience and for some this just meant a day filled with misery and tears, grieving for the loss of a child that was still alive somewhere on this planet. Continue reading Special Days for Mums Alienated from their Children
It is hard enough bringing children up together just as a part of a family unit, so when you have the added emotional upset of separation or divorce the family situation can get very messy, very quickly.
I found this article and site to be of particular interest. It is if you like, a toolkit for parents considering the steps of separation and divorce and if more parents were to consider using a ‘Parenting Plan’ then perhaps Parental Alienation would not be as prevalent in societies around the world as it is today. Continue reading The Parenting Plan
Anyone who was ever estranged from a family member will know that we spend vast amounts of time and energy thinking about what we did or said that was wrong, that made them turn from us or us from them.
But, just as we cannot control how others behave we can of course control or manage how WE behave, as soon as we have accepted that simple fact and realise that none of us are perfect we can move forward and it is then that we begin to realise that it is probably not us who are the problem, but it is the other person involved who is. Continue reading Love Yourself, You are Worth It
British Judge slams couple who used Parental Alienation tactics during their bitter divorce battle, and finally one Social Services department takes notice and believes that parental alienation is a form of child abuse.
It is the systematic denigration of the non-resident parent by the resident parent with the intent of alienating children against the non-resident parent. The pattern of PAS behaviour is common to some degree or other in all custody disputes.
Children who have been alienated will claim that it is their own decision to reject the non-resident parent. Once this happens, it could be several years before the non-resident parent will see their children again.
Dr Richard Gardner MD Continue reading The Symptoms and Side Effects of PAS
[Warning: graphic language in below video] Here is a very sad audio clip of an angry father going on a yelling tirade against his kids.
This was one of the few times a child is able to document their own Dad’s abuse. To anyone that says emotional or mental abuse isn’t as damaging as physical child abuse, I would simply ask them to listen to this: