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Happy 12th Birthday Josh

Dear Josh,

Once again we are missing another birthday in what really is a very short childhood.

You’re turning into a young man and we’ve missed, no we have been denied, so many milestones, birthdays and turning points in your young life.

So here are some of the parts in our lives you are missing out on….

Yesterday Lily danced her socks off in a school dancing competition you would have been so proud of your little sister, she loves dancing and singing and I wouldn’t be surprised to see her in the entertainment business when she’s older.

Caitlin is studying for seven prelims in January, she is excelling in Math and languages and is making us all very, very proud of how much she is achieving.

Sienna has just completed her first nursery term and her teachers think she’s adorable, as do we all.

We have a new dog, and she’s very very cute.

You’re mum is finally learning to drive….so she’ll soon be much more mobile. You’re mummy, David and sisters are all booked up for a lovely two week holiday to your favourite destination next year…maybe by that time things will have moved on.

We all miss you both very, very much Josh and soon it’ll be Christmas again…you are now deemed old enough to make you’re own decisions and choices in your life.

We can only hope and pray that you choose the right paths, you could choose to visit us or call us, you could choose to contact your sisters or your mum, all you need to do is private message this page and it can be arranged.

We would ALL be so happy to either hear from you or see you (not forgetting wee arty farty pants Archie)

We know that you might find this hard to do because you’ve been told so many times that we all abandoned you both, that we no longer loved or cared about you both or that we never wanted to see you again.

But all of that is simply untrue. And if you ever give us the chance to show you EVERYTHING we have ever tried to do to speak, see or hear from you both, you might be surprised to learn you’ve been lied to and kept in the dark about many, many things.

If you feel that you owe you’re dad and his girlfriend some sort of loyalty you may change your mind when you learn the truth.

Trying to get through yet another birthday without having you in our lives in very hard, especially so for your mum and sisters, it makes us all sad, so we could do without the cruel posts from those people in your lives which are designed to deliver the worst and cruelest form of hurt another human being can inflict on another.

So to let the world know that we haven’t given up the fight to see you both and that we are not afraid of those flying monkeys who seem to think they rule the world, we decided to call The Maltings and ask them to give you our message, I hope they did, I think they must have because not long after the posts disappeared, but not before they had been screen printed.

If you ever get the chance to read this you’ll see and understand just how cruel those posts were.

Every day is hard, we stumble through hoping for a ray of hope, we hope that it is coming, it’s all bundled up in red tape, maybe one day that red tape will become a big red bow who knows.

We haven’t given up, we are still fighting, neither of you are forgotten, we will be there to the bitter or happy end, the door will always be open to you both, always, all either of you have to do is take a step forward….

So here for you Josh, on your 12th Birthday is a small list of legal things you can now achieve without your father’s permission.

Things you can do at the age of 12 in Scotland….


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What’s Love Got to Do with It…..

13177177_1576505552641932_2457046837278823513_nI was recently invited to ‘like’ another Facebook Community page dealing with Parental Alienation, but before I could hit that little ‘like’ radio button I had to give the whole why thing some thought, and these were the conclusions that I came to and wrote to the page owner on.

I find it quite horrifying, yet at the same time inspiring, that the number of community pages and groups, private or public, dealing with the insidious evil that is Parental Alienation seems to be exploding on the great big wide world of the Internet and social media. Continue reading What’s Love Got to Do with It…..

The Serious Crime Act 2015

The Serious Crime Act (2015)

So I thought it was time to write another little piece about Parental Alienation and how the Police do not see it as an issue.

My daughter has now reported this issue on several occasions and has never had any sort of update that has been worth having. Continue reading The Serious Crime Act 2015

Bullies and Domestic Violence



So it was a beautiful sunny day and there I was in Perth’s city centre High street, minding my own business, sitting waiting…. just waiting….and along the side of my car comes this person, who then proceeds to call me a ‘skanky shite’, (well coming from this one it is all a bit rich really) but before she can say anything else a police car pulls up just at the lights on the High street, not far from where I am legitimately parked, and, well, just waiting…. but before I can respond to her she literally scuttles, and I do mean scuttles off, further up the High street. Continue reading Bullies and Domestic Violence

Change….or Not……



Change…..or Not…..

It is always heartbreaking for me to read private messages from parents who have been put through an absolute nightmare by their exes, their exes families and friends, and in particular those in local authority and in Police forces who could have done so much more to help alleviate their issues. Continue reading Change….or Not……

2016 A New Year

FB_IMG_1442424002524For the past four years now my daughter has thought that not seeing her two sons has been her fault, she now finally understands that it was not her fault, and with all that we have learned together as a family who have been totally cut off and denied any access with or to #JoshandArchieMcKay it is hardly surprising that it has taken her this long to finally understand the horrors that Parental Alienators commit, having to learn what Parental Alienators do is no mean feat. Continue reading 2016 A New Year

When do I let go?

186I’ve been awake since  two thirty am thinking about my grandson’s #JoshandArchieMcKay after having a long conversation with my daughter about them earlier in the day. Sleep is always hard to find for me when my daughter is so distressed by how much she misses her two boys.

My oldest grandson Josh will be 11 years old tomorrow, it is another year where we will not help him celebrate this birthday because we have been denied access to him for so long now that he has been so brainwashed into thinking his mum and the rest of us are such bad people.
Continue reading When do I let go?

I Tried My Best…….

FB_IMG_1442418272736I never really thought much about Parental Alienation until it happened to my family, it isn’t one of ‘those things’ that you hear much about on the news or in the main stream media, but in the UK it does happen and it is happening more than people know.

But what is Parental Alienation? Well in short it is a term which is used to describe the behaviours used by a parent which is often mirrored by other family members, it is used to manipulate children’s minds with the end motive being to sever all ties and links with the child’s other parent and their extended family. Continue reading I Tried My Best…….

Updates on Social Media Abuse

FB_IMG_1442527212379I have now had three separate solicitors letters (all from different solicitors firms) telling me that they would like me to remove the webpages, certain posts and some of my tweets, which they claim are offensive and embarrassing for my grandsons #JoshandArchieMcKay

My response to those letters are NO simple as that. The posts are my right to Freedom of Expression and Speech. These posts are also the only way we can evidence our hellish journey to fight to see them both, they also document the abuse we have had to take and the absolute mess the local authority have made of protecting ALL of my grandchildren.

The posts will not be removed and will be there for as long as my daughters and her children remain apart.

I suggest to all three solicitors firms that instead of them being embarrassing to my grandsons they are in actual fact embarrassing for your clients, not all solicitors require them to be removed, in as much as you want them removed others wish them to remain.

This is MY website, bought, paid for and updated by me, the associated Community Facebook page and Twitter account are also public pages and will remain.

Here is an update to these social media posts.

And YES I was given permission to post the ‘divorce papers’ since the address isn’t valid it isn’t an issue! Continue reading Updates on Social Media Abuse

The Pro’s and Con’s of Shared Parenting

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As an alienated grandmother whose daughter is being actively alienated from her two sons #JoshandArchieMcKay by her ex-husband and his new partner, and her family too (let’s all get in on the act here) I decided to take a look at the bigger picture and try to find a way forward as a means to attempting a more positive compromise, and in the hope that my daughters ex-husband may actually read this and consider the options, although I am doubtful, and if anything its more likely it’ll be his lawyer reading this and then writing to me again!

I have tried to sit down and work out the pros and cons of ‘Shared Parenting’ and exactly what this means not only for the children but also for the parents and other extended family members.

So as a ‘lay person’ with no other formal qualifications on this matter other than my experience of being in the position of seeing actual Parental Alienation at work, how it affects not only the absent parent, but also siblings and extended family here are my own personal thoughts on the matter. Continue reading The Pro’s and Con’s of Shared Parenting