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Don’t be a Flying Monkey in 2016

flying monkThere are those of you out there who may be new to the game of Parental Alienation and who may not yet have heard of the term ‘flying monkey’, these are people that a narcissist uses to do their bidding.

There are times such as in our case when the lead narcissist will not personally attack you publicly in any way because to do so would make them look bad, but what they will do is privately tell those carefully chosen people how evil and awful you are, how you walked away and deserted your children, how you had numerous affairs, how you were a bad mother or father, it does not matter, they’ll use any and all ways and means of making you look like you are the bad one here, so long as it makes them look good.

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When do I let go?

186I’ve been awake since  two thirty am thinking about my grandson’s #JoshandArchieMcKay after having a long conversation with my daughter about them earlier in the day. Sleep is always hard to find for me when my daughter is so distressed by how much she misses her two boys.

My oldest grandson Josh will be 11 years old tomorrow, it is another year where we will not help him celebrate this birthday because we have been denied access to him for so long now that he has been so brainwashed into thinking his mum and the rest of us are such bad people.
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Happy 11th Birthday Josh

Dear #JoshMcKay,

Tomorrow will be your 11th birthday. I remember the day you were born, very clearly as if it were just yesterday, even although I was on holiday at the time in Canada at the time, I remember the joy in your mum and dad’s voices when we spoke to them, I remember thinking, wow I have a grandson now, how wonderful is that.

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Sisters and their Brothers

My beautiful grandchildrenDear #JoshandArchieMcKay

Well it was Caitlin’s birthday today and as much as she enjoyed it all she said quite a few times how much she missed you both, it made it all very sad, no 14 year old girl should be saying things like that about missing her brothers. Continue reading Sisters and their Brothers

Parental Alienation and the Children Involved

don't dwellParental alienation occurs any time that a parent, relative or friend speaks badly about another parent so that a child can hear what is being said. Alienating behaviour may be mild, moderate or severe.

All parents are likely to “lose it” and be inappropriate with their words around children, however, when there is a predominance of negative messages being communicated to a child, these messages can seriously erode the child’s psychological well-being.

In severe cases of parental alienation, children are manipulated and brainwashed (programmed) into such states of confusion that their perception
of events and people around them are severely distorted.

Parental alienation in its most severe form is a heinous form of child abuse and neglect. It is a dangerous manipulation of children’s minds to alter their perception of reality about another parent. The purpose of marginalizing this parent is that he or she has no means to be an effective parent or to cut that parent out of a child’s life entirely, called a ‘parentectomy’. Continue reading Parental Alienation and the Children Involved

Teaching a Child to Despise His or Her Own Parent – PAS Links

 

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”There is no question that parental alienation is a form of child abuse. It is a horror show. The damage to children is enormous.

When a child loses a parent, they are killing off a part of themselves because there is an identity between the child and both parents.

The result is that they become self-injurious. I see all the warning signs and all the flags of the self-hatred: nightmares, anxiety, oppositional behaviors in school, presence of gastrointestinal syndromes, failing school grades, more susceptibility to peers with oppositional behaviors, juvenile delinquency, substance abuse, and depression” – Dr. Raymond Havlicek Continue reading Teaching a Child to Despise His or Her Own Parent – PAS Links

Happy Birthday Josh McKay 08/12/2002

Dear Josh and Archie,

You’ve probably been told lots of things about me by now, about how I left you both and never tried to fight to see you, about how I lied about everything, about how I never wanted either of you, about how I’m not the mum you thought I was. Continue reading Happy Birthday Josh McKay 08/12/2002

Dateline of Emails and Letters to and from Perth and Kinross Social Work Dept

Lovely LilyBelow you will find a timeline of letters and emails primarily to Perth and Kinross Head of Social Work Department (at that time) Alison Irvine and some of the staff she had working for her then.

We were constantly fobbed off with excuses and it’s a ‘private matter’ or it’s ‘nothing to bother Social Workers with’, Continue reading Dateline of Emails and Letters to and from Perth and Kinross Social Work Dept