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2016 A New Year

FB_IMG_1442424002524For the past four years now my daughter has thought that not seeing her two sons has been her fault, she now finally understands that it was not her fault, and with all that we have learned together as a family who have been totally cut off and denied any access with or to #JoshandArchieMcKay it is hardly surprising that it has taken her this long to finally understand the horrors that Parental Alienators commit, having to learn what Parental Alienators do is no mean feat. Continue reading 2016 A New Year

I Tried My Best…….

FB_IMG_1442418272736I never really thought much about Parental Alienation until it happened to my family, it isn’t one of ‘those things’ that you hear much about on the news or in the main stream media, but in the UK it does happen and it is happening more than people know.

But what is Parental Alienation? Well in short it is a term which is used to describe the behaviours used by a parent which is often mirrored by other family members, it is used to manipulate children’s minds with the end motive being to sever all ties and links with the child’s other parent and their extended family. Continue reading I Tried My Best…….

Missing Children

Josn and mummyDear ‪#‎JoshandArchieMcKay

Well its back to Inchview Primary school for you both tomorrow which means it will almost be time again for parent’s night.

It is also your sisters birthday on Tuesday and she says the best gift she could get would be to see you both without all the hassle of trying to do it through her solicitors at Thornton’s in Perth, but she’s resigned herself to once again being disappointed because she knows it’s 99.99% most likely not to happen. Continue reading Missing Children

You May See Me Struggle……..

I have known a few people in my lifetime who were then or are now extremely frustrating to deal with, but none such as our own personal parental alienators.

Not only are they frustrating in each and every way, they are also very, very toxic, to the point that a skull and crossbones should be assigned to their every well thought out, planned and devious move. A few of these people absolutely show signs of having some sort of personality disorder, as in they don’t actually have any personality worth knowing. Continue reading You May See Me Struggle……..

The Pro’s and Con’s of Shared Parenting

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As an alienated grandmother whose daughter is being actively alienated from her two sons #JoshandArchieMcKay by her ex-husband and his new partner, and her family too (let’s all get in on the act here) I decided to take a look at the bigger picture and try to find a way forward as a means to attempting a more positive compromise, and in the hope that my daughters ex-husband may actually read this and consider the options, although I am doubtful, and if anything its more likely it’ll be his lawyer reading this and then writing to me again!

I have tried to sit down and work out the pros and cons of ‘Shared Parenting’ and exactly what this means not only for the children but also for the parents and other extended family members.

So as a ‘lay person’ with no other formal qualifications on this matter other than my experience of being in the position of seeing actual Parental Alienation at work, how it affects not only the absent parent, but also siblings and extended family here are my own personal thoughts on the matter. Continue reading The Pro’s and Con’s of Shared Parenting

Useful links for parents being alienated from their children 2015

IMG_20150729_002404 - CopyHere are some useful links for all parents, siblings and grandparents who are being actively alienated from their children, siblings or grandchildren

1. http://www.forallthat.com/children-resisting-contact.html

Nick Child, family therapist and retired child and family psychiatrist (whose website and words you’re reading) attended the event “Changing the Culture” on 31st August 2012 in Edinburgh – click here for programme and click here to download the full report of the event held at the Murray Stable. The event was mainly for and about family lawyers and the courts, and an imminent forthcoming review triggered by an infamous case “B v G”. There were contributions from others including the Scottish Child Law Centre, Families Need Fathers, and Women’s Aid. Since then other discussions have helped improve the picture and information in Scotland.

Continue reading Useful links for parents being alienated from their children 2015

The Lengths Parental Alienators Will Go To…….

FB_IMG_1438041090334 - CopyDear #JoshandArchieMcKay

So here we are again…..

It’s now August 2015 and we are about to enter year 4 of our personal hell that is Parental Alienation of our grandchildren #JoshandArchieMcKay.

We have had absolutely no contact with these two boys for what seems to be an eternity of pain and misery, and whilst we can deal with it on a daily basis their mother and their three sisters find it very hard and miss #JoshandArchieMcKay more than the words I write can convey.

We all know now that Parental alienation is a form of emotional abuse in which a normal positive parent/child relationship is damaged or destroyed by another party using emotional manipulation, threats, false accusations, and any other means possible.

Continue reading The Lengths Parental Alienators Will Go To…….

Especially for Josh and Archie McKay

josh n mummyDear Josh and Archie,

I realise that what you are both about to learn and see in these posts is not something that is very pleasant, but, it is something that you both need to know about.

You’re mummy never gave up looking for you, she was always denied your address, when you were registered at your new school, your mummy was not even listed as being your next of kin, she was just ‘left off’ by your dad and allana.

She and your sisters and us, have missed Christmases, birthdays and all sorts of other things like holidays abroad, and just seeing you for even a little while, but that’s not because we haven’t tried, it’s because we were told we were never being allowed to see you both again, even Caitlin has a solicitor who is getting the runaround.

I am going to try to keep this nice and simple for you to understand and I shall be posting pictures of things that have been written about your mummy and me too which are not very nice to read, they have been written by your dad, your granny Liz, Allana, Allana’s mum Mairi Scally and Allana’s aunty Caroline Colville, and a few of their friends.

If you click on each picture it will show you exactly what is being said about your mum.

All we want you to know is that YOU WERE NEVER ABANDONED, YOU WERE NEVER FORGOTTEN, WE and especially your mummy NEVER STOPPED TRYING TO SEE YOU BOTH and you are BOTH STILL VERY MUCH LOVED AND MISSED.

Continue reading Especially for Josh and Archie McKay

Active Parental Alienation

So I thought I’d written enough about #pasabusers and how they operate, but it seems that some members of this particular family just cannot help themselves and have to post their vitriolic hate filled abuse online, then when it get’s a little bit hot they try to remove the post. Continue reading Active Parental Alienation

June 2015 and The Alienators Just Can’t Leave it Alone

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So our particular ‪#‎PASischildabuse‬ alienators are at it again on their Facebook accounts. They seem to think it’s incredibly funny to actually denigrate the mother of the children they are looking after, so here are the pictures for future reference of the Family Court where Residency and Access hearings will be heard and of course for ‪#‎JoshandArchieMcKay‬who will get to know the truth when they are older about what exactly went on.

So these are the two females who not only follow on www.gnat.wtf  but also on Twitter under various names and guises, and who also attempt to intimidate followers on twitter and also follow our GNAT Facebook and Google pages. It is interesting that they think it is all about them, when in actual fact when a narcissist reveals themselves in this way it really become obvious that it is all about THEM.

It is hard to believe that these people are actually in day to day contact with my grandsons while their mum sits and waits for news on access and residency of them.

I would like to point out that there are many people on the GNAT Facebook account who live near these people, although I have asked them NOT TO TELL ME where they live. I have asked them to pass on any pertinent information to their local Police Station and or Social Work Department.

And while we are on the subject of ‪#‎allanabruce‬ perhaps Perth and Kinross Council could explain which school it was that ‘raised concerns about Allana Bruce’, not hearsay either came from an extremely reputable and impeccable source, so somewhere in your files at PKC SW and Educ Dept there is a record of this.