Advice and Support

12809789_1296708630427307_3206977326959736314_nI have been accused recently by the usual crew of hecklers and crackpots of giving ‘dangerous advice to young and vulnerable females’, well I am going to lay it out as simply as I can, because it is becoming more and more obvious to me as time goes on that the usual crew of hecklers and crackpots have the reading age of at most a four year old, and I may be doing a great injustice to most four year old’s, so here it goes…. Continue reading Advice and Support

Truth

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Sometimes we all have that deep, deep dark secret that we hope others will never find out about us.

For me it was the shame that my mother had a conviction for drug smuggling in a foreign country in 2000, it’s something that lives with me everyday of my life, but it’s no longer a secret and it’s been out there for quite some time now.

It didn’t break my family back then just as it hasn’t broken us now. We all have secrets which we think are the worse things about us or our families and which we hope others will never find out about us.

Secrets. Sometimes they are exciting and sometimes they are scary. But at the end of the day it’s just another facet of us that people don’t yet know about us, or its one that they do think they know about us but chose to assume they know everything about it and us.

Parental Alienation is a secret. You are never told about it, it’s not taught in schools or college’s or university, and if and when it is part of a university course it’s a page or two that is quickly skimmed over, you think you’ve been taught about it and you assume you know about it but the reality is much, much different.

Parental Alienation is a secret when you get married and have children. The Church doesn’t ask you during your vows to say “promise that you will never alienate any future children you may have from the other parent”, they don’t talk about it at parenting classes or ante natal classes, no one tells you that in your future there is a possibility that it could happen to you.

Parental Alienation is a secret because those parents who commit it don’t want to admit to it, and sometimes those parents in the throes of it don’t want to admit it’s happening to them because people will assume and judge.

Secrets. We all have them. It just depends on what they are, who is involved, and how it’s done. But the one thing about secrets is that they always, always get found out. By chance, by luck, by stupidity and by pride, which always, always comes before that fall.

Alienators always have secrets. They lead a secret live with those who facilitate their secret. They don’t tell others because they don’t need to be told the truth, they tell others their version of the truth. They tell the children they are alienating a different kind of “truth” yet again, till it gets to the point where no one except the alienators actually know what the “real truth” is and even then it’s still a distorted version of their own truth.

In heated moments we all blurt out little excerpts of truths, and when I’m up late at night going through the stuff in my head trying to make sense of it all and reading things that were posted from way back in the beginning I find there is a conversation on this page from a while ago, that had the authorities bothered to actually read it might have been asking a few more important questions. But they haven’t so far and it’s doubtful now that even if they did it might be no longer relevant. Or would it?

You see after re reading this conversation and putting two and two together I think I may have stumbled onto someone else’s secret. And my issue now is what to do about it.

I was once told there are three things you cannot hide, the Sun, the Moon and the truth. Secrets they sit deep within us, dark and weighing heavy like stones.

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Don’t be a Flying Monkey in 2016

flying monkThere are those of you out there who may be new to the game of Parental Alienation and who may not yet have heard of the term ‘flying monkey’, these are people that a narcissist uses to do their bidding.

There are times such as in our case when the lead narcissist will not personally attack you publicly in any way because to do so would make them look bad, but what they will do is privately tell those carefully chosen people how evil and awful you are, how you walked away and deserted your children, how you had numerous affairs, how you were a bad mother or father, it does not matter, they’ll use any and all ways and means of making you look like you are the bad one here, so long as it makes them look good.

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2016 A New Year

FB_IMG_1442424002524For the past four years now my daughter has thought that not seeing her two sons has been her fault, she now finally understands that it was not her fault, and with all that we have learned together as a family who have been totally cut off and denied any access with or to #JoshandArchieMcKay it is hardly surprising that it has taken her this long to finally understand the horrors that Parental Alienators commit, having to learn what Parental Alienators do is no mean feat. Continue reading 2016 A New Year

When do I let go?

186I’ve been awake since  two thirty am thinking about my grandson’s #JoshandArchieMcKay after having a long conversation with my daughter about them earlier in the day. Sleep is always hard to find for me when my daughter is so distressed by how much she misses her two boys.

My oldest grandson Josh will be 11 years old tomorrow, it is another year where we will not help him celebrate this birthday because we have been denied access to him for so long now that he has been so brainwashed into thinking his mum and the rest of us are such bad people.
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Happy 11th Birthday Josh

Dear #JoshMcKay,

Tomorrow will be your 11th birthday. I remember the day you were born, very clearly as if it were just yesterday, even although I was on holiday at the time in Canada at the time, I remember the joy in your mum and dad’s voices when we spoke to them, I remember thinking, wow I have a grandson now, how wonderful is that.

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I Tried My Best…….

FB_IMG_1442418272736I never really thought much about Parental Alienation until it happened to my family, it isn’t one of ‘those things’ that you hear much about on the news or in the main stream media, but in the UK it does happen and it is happening more than people know.

But what is Parental Alienation? Well in short it is a term which is used to describe the behaviours used by a parent which is often mirrored by other family members, it is used to manipulate children’s minds with the end motive being to sever all ties and links with the child’s other parent and their extended family. Continue reading I Tried My Best…….

Christmas and Birthdays Wishes and an Open Letter to Jay McKay

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Today I was sadly reminded that it will once again be that time of the year, you know Christmas. I have been trying to avoid thinking about it because it heralds yet another Christmas that our family have not been able to see our grandson’s #JoshandArchieMcKay.

Today is also my son’s 30th birthday which also reminded that it will soon be #JoshMcKays 11th birthday too.

So that is another birthday in our family that my grandsons have missed and another birthday that we will miss.

In January 2016 it will be roughly 4 years since we last saw #JoshandArchieMcKay, the same applies to their mum and sisters.

It is not an easy time of the year.

We are saddened that their father still takes this stance on allowing this alienation to continue, and we are even more saddened that he feels that this is the right way to go, so this is my open letter to #JayMcKay, it is sent to him with no hatred or vindictiveness, nor is it a threat of any kind, it is quite simple a letter from a mother about her child and her grandchildren. It is not hate that I write about, it is nothing other than a request to the father of my grandchildren, nothing more.

Dear Jay, Continue reading Christmas and Birthdays Wishes and an Open Letter to Jay McKay

Sisters and their Brothers

My beautiful grandchildrenDear #JoshandArchieMcKay

Well it was Caitlin’s birthday today and as much as she enjoyed it all she said quite a few times how much she missed you both, it made it all very sad, no 14 year old girl should be saying things like that about missing her brothers. Continue reading Sisters and their Brothers

Missing Children

Josn and mummyDear ‪#‎JoshandArchieMcKay

Well its back to Inchview Primary school for you both tomorrow which means it will almost be time again for parent’s night.

It is also your sisters birthday on Tuesday and she says the best gift she could get would be to see you both without all the hassle of trying to do it through her solicitors at Thornton’s in Perth, but she’s resigned herself to once again being disappointed because she knows it’s 99.99% most likely not to happen. Continue reading Missing Children