Category Archives: 2016

Happy 12th Birthday Josh

Dear Josh,

Once again we are missing another birthday in what really is a very short childhood.

You’re turning into a young man and we’ve missed, no we have been denied, so many milestones, birthdays and turning points in your young life.

So here are some of the parts in our lives you are missing out on….

Yesterday Lily danced her socks off in a school dancing competition you would have been so proud of your little sister, she loves dancing and singing and I wouldn’t be surprised to see her in the entertainment business when she’s older.

Caitlin is studying for seven prelims in January, she is excelling in Math and languages and is making us all very, very proud of how much she is achieving.

Sienna has just completed her first nursery term and her teachers think she’s adorable, as do we all.

We have a new dog, and she’s very very cute.

You’re mum is finally learning to drive….so she’ll soon be much more mobile. You’re mummy, David and sisters are all booked up for a lovely two week holiday to your favourite destination next year…maybe by that time things will have moved on.

We all miss you both very, very much Josh and soon it’ll be Christmas again…you are now deemed old enough to make you’re own decisions and choices in your life.

We can only hope and pray that you choose the right paths, you could choose to visit us or call us, you could choose to contact your sisters or your mum, all you need to do is private message this page and it can be arranged.

We would ALL be so happy to either hear from you or see you (not forgetting wee arty farty pants Archie)

We know that you might find this hard to do because you’ve been told so many times that we all abandoned you both, that we no longer loved or cared about you both or that we never wanted to see you again.

But all of that is simply untrue. And if you ever give us the chance to show you EVERYTHING we have ever tried to do to speak, see or hear from you both, you might be surprised to learn you’ve been lied to and kept in the dark about many, many things.

If you feel that you owe you’re dad and his girlfriend some sort of loyalty you may change your mind when you learn the truth.

Trying to get through yet another birthday without having you in our lives in very hard, especially so for your mum and sisters, it makes us all sad, so we could do without the cruel posts from those people in your lives which are designed to deliver the worst and cruelest form of hurt another human being can inflict on another.

So to let the world know that we haven’t given up the fight to see you both and that we are not afraid of those flying monkeys who seem to think they rule the world, we decided to call The Maltings and ask them to give you our message, I hope they did, I think they must have because not long after the posts disappeared, but not before they had been screen printed.

If you ever get the chance to read this you’ll see and understand just how cruel those posts were.

Every day is hard, we stumble through hoping for a ray of hope, we hope that it is coming, it’s all bundled up in red tape, maybe one day that red tape will become a big red bow who knows.

We haven’t given up, we are still fighting, neither of you are forgotten, we will be there to the bitter or happy end, the door will always be open to you both, always, all either of you have to do is take a step forward….

So here for you Josh, on your 12th Birthday is a small list of legal things you can now achieve without your father’s permission.

Things you can do at the age of 12 in Scotland….


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When Two Tribes go to War



Some people seem to think that Parental Alienation is a game to be played. The blinkers of hatred that cloud their judgment stop them from seeing the bigger picture. The need for revenge is so strong with these people that their every waking thought seems to be about ways to bring the other person down, the only place they are bringing the absent parent down to is their level, which is usually below the gutter.

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The Serious Crime Act 2015

The Serious Crime Act (2015)

So I thought it was time to write another little piece about Parental Alienation and how the Police do not see it as an issue.

My daughter has now reported this issue on several occasions and has never had any sort of update that has been worth having. Continue reading The Serious Crime Act 2015

When Your Best is Not Enough



There are times, sadly, when your very best just never seems to be good enough. It’s not because you lack the ability to do your best, but because the system does not want you to succeed at doing your best.

For those of you who follow and like this page I want to update you all on what has been going on, or not, and how this has affected my daughter, her daughters and our family in general. Continue reading When Your Best is Not Enough

Change….or Not……



Change…..or Not…..

It is always heartbreaking for me to read private messages from parents who have been put through an absolute nightmare by their exes, their exes families and friends, and in particular those in local authority and in Police forces who could have done so much more to help alleviate their issues. Continue reading Change….or Not……

Fake Social Media Profiles

We were recently given the joy of laughter at the usual crew of hecklers and crackpots by their attempts to create ‘something’ via the use of fake Facebook profiles. It’s disturbing to think that these people are in daily contact with my two vulnerable grandsons and it makes me wonder what type of people they will grow up to be….that also goes for the hecklers and crackpots….!

So here are a few for your entertainment and for our recording of events.

Eventually I am glad to say Facebook finally removed the ‘Ash Jamieson’ profile because it became abusive.



Sometimes we all have that deep, deep dark secret that we hope others will never find out about us.

For me it was the shame that my mother had a conviction for drug smuggling in a foreign country in 2000, it’s something that lives with me everyday of my life, but it’s no longer a secret and it’s been out there for quite some time now.

It didn’t break my family back then just as it hasn’t broken us now. We all have secrets which we think are the worse things about us or our families and which we hope others will never find out about us.

Secrets. Sometimes they are exciting and sometimes they are scary. But at the end of the day it’s just another facet of us that people don’t yet know about us, or its one that they do think they know about us but chose to assume they know everything about it and us.

Parental Alienation is a secret. You are never told about it, it’s not taught in schools or college’s or university, and if and when it is part of a university course it’s a page or two that is quickly skimmed over, you think you’ve been taught about it and you assume you know about it but the reality is much, much different.

Parental Alienation is a secret when you get married and have children. The Church doesn’t ask you during your vows to say “promise that you will never alienate any future children you may have from the other parent”, they don’t talk about it at parenting classes or ante natal classes, no one tells you that in your future there is a possibility that it could happen to you.

Parental Alienation is a secret because those parents who commit it don’t want to admit to it, and sometimes those parents in the throes of it don’t want to admit it’s happening to them because people will assume and judge.

Secrets. We all have them. It just depends on what they are, who is involved, and how it’s done. But the one thing about secrets is that they always, always get found out. By chance, by luck, by stupidity and by pride, which always, always comes before that fall.

Alienators always have secrets. They lead a secret live with those who facilitate their secret. They don’t tell others because they don’t need to be told the truth, they tell others their version of the truth. They tell the children they are alienating a different kind of “truth” yet again, till it gets to the point where no one except the alienators actually know what the “real truth” is and even then it’s still a distorted version of their own truth.

In heated moments we all blurt out little excerpts of truths, and when I’m up late at night going through the stuff in my head trying to make sense of it all and reading things that were posted from way back in the beginning I find there is a conversation on this page from a while ago, that had the authorities bothered to actually read it might have been asking a few more important questions. But they haven’t so far and it’s doubtful now that even if they did it might be no longer relevant. Or would it?

You see after re reading this conversation and putting two and two together I think I may have stumbled onto someone else’s secret. And my issue now is what to do about it.

I was once told there are three things you cannot hide, the Sun, the Moon and the truth. Secrets they sit deep within us, dark and weighing heavy like stones.

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Don’t be a Flying Monkey in 2016

flying monkThere are those of you out there who may be new to the game of Parental Alienation and who may not yet have heard of the term ‘flying monkey’, these are people that a narcissist uses to do their bidding.

There are times such as in our case when the lead narcissist will not personally attack you publicly in any way because to do so would make them look bad, but what they will do is privately tell those carefully chosen people how evil and awful you are, how you walked away and deserted your children, how you had numerous affairs, how you were a bad mother or father, it does not matter, they’ll use any and all ways and means of making you look like you are the bad one here, so long as it makes them look good.

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2016 A New Year

FB_IMG_1442424002524For the past four years now my daughter has thought that not seeing her two sons has been her fault, she now finally understands that it was not her fault, and with all that we have learned together as a family who have been totally cut off and denied any access with or to #JoshandArchieMcKay it is hardly surprising that it has taken her this long to finally understand the horrors that Parental Alienators commit, having to learn what Parental Alienators do is no mean feat. Continue reading 2016 A New Year