Monthly Archives: September 2015

A Visit with Scotland’s Boys in Blue…….(and I don’t mean the football team either!)

175Today has been a prime example of how one rule works for one person and the same rule applied to another gets a differing result, with no conformity or function of said rule.

In all of our lives we will experience a loss of some type or another, it is never pleasant and it is never pain free, but when a bitter divorce or acrimonious separation happens we all try to hold on to that last shred of dignity and self-respect that we have as parents, as grandparents and as siblings; however, there then comes a point where the silence you have fought so hard to maintain along with that last tiny fragment of your long lost dignity and sanity are  torn from you with all the pain of an Elastoplast being ripped from your skin, that holding onto those final slivers of sanity and silence is no longer an option.

A pack of lies has torn our lives and family apart, those same lies have alienated not only two of my grandchildren from their extended family but also their mother and sisters.

My usual readership will know that two years ago I went through a period of being accused of a crime that I did not commit and was never guilty of in the first place, and then later on I was subsequently found not guilty of by a Judge after a trial lasting two days and costing the taxpayer thousands of pounds no doubt, in court time, police time and witness time, not to mention lawyers etc.

Now I appear to be following the ‘mad hatter down the rabbit hole again’. Yesterday the pleasure of my company was requested by Scotland’s finest boys in blue, and today I met with them at my local Police Station, whereupon I was read my rights and we then had a discussion about the contents of a letter I allegedly wrote in 2013, funny my website wasn’t up and running until October 2014 and it’s taken this person all this time to produce this letter and complain about it along with a whole list of other ‘spurious’ complaints.

I will write about every time I see my grandsons in a public street, and I will write about why I never approached them when they are with other people because it is lethal from my point of view to do so, and today’s ‘voluntary visit to the Police Station’ is exactly and example of that.

But we’ve now come to the point where all of these complaints to the Police is nothing short of ‘harassment’ pure and simple.

All I have ever done with this website was to write about what my daughter, her children, and we as an extended family have been going through, it is our story to tell, it was our pain to live with, yet others have to include themselves in it all by writing all of the vicious and vile comments about my grandsons mother, something that they will one day read and I wonder how long it will take them for the penny to drop and not only realise that they have been lied to for years, but that their mother, who carried them for nine months, gave long hard painful birth to them, nursed them when they were sick, watched them take their first steps and heard them speak their first words, will feel when they realise that she has been torn apart in a despicable and savage way in front of the world.

On a daily basis across the whole of the UK such people with narcissistic tendencies ask professionals of all types from their legal teams, to local authorities, to schools, to health center’s to nurseries and to all who know them to engage in emotional blackmail and extortion; they effectively ask them all to collude, conspire, scheme and falsify facts and law to benefit themselves, harass and oppress families like mine, put children and grandchildren in crisis, inflict emotional distress, and engage in Schadenfreude (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schadenfreude) and every single day across this country, fit, loving, normal range parents, siblings and grandparents like us get erased from their children’s and grandchildren’s lives because narcissistic personalities such as those who need the drama of knowing they are full, front and centre stage in the production that is their own lives, and in consequence to this type of behaviour by other narcissists across Scotland, the UK and the rest of the world, each and every day another child loses a parent, their extended family, half of their identity and their heritage.

For many of these children it does take years to figure out what really happened, behind the lies, manipulations and maneuvers and if it can happen to us, as it has, then it could happen to anyone.

It could be you and your child.

You see this is our story and only our story and by choosing to tell the truth as we are means that we are choosing to live on the other side of victim.

 

 

 

 

The Pro’s and Con’s of Shared Parenting

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As an alienated grandmother whose daughter is being actively alienated from her two sons #JoshandArchieMcKay by her ex-husband and his new partner, and her family too (let’s all get in on the act here) I decided to take a look at the bigger picture and try to find a way forward as a means to attempting a more positive compromise, and in the hope that my daughters ex-husband may actually read this and consider the options, although I am doubtful, and if anything its more likely it’ll be his lawyer reading this and then writing to me again!

I have tried to sit down and work out the pros and cons of ‘Shared Parenting’ and exactly what this means not only for the children but also for the parents and other extended family members.

So as a ‘lay person’ with no other formal qualifications on this matter other than my experience of being in the position of seeing actual Parental Alienation at work, how it affects not only the absent parent, but also siblings and extended family here are my own personal thoughts on the matter. Continue reading The Pro’s and Con’s of Shared Parenting